Hornet is an online space specially designed for gay, bi, and transgender men around the world. Our social networks assist gay, trans and bisexual men to find friends, dates, and other meaningful connections. Our goal is to lessen the risk of violence, alleviate the discomfort of meeting people solely through old and sometimes sketchy methods, and help users easily find people they share interests with. Hornet encourages you regardless of closet status, to make friends, learn about the LGBT community near and far, and even more about yourself. Sadly, in some parts of the world being gay is illegal or can be very dangerous and Hornet may be the only source of community where one can turn to, and we strive to make our community a safe space for all who enter. Please, review our safety tips below:
- Fact-check. Ask for multiple social media accounts to verify someone and be sure to ask for more than one picture.
- Be smart. If you end up connecting on other social sites like Facebook or IG, see how many friends or followers they have, how many photos they have posted, and how long since it was published. If the account only shows modeling photos that’s a big sign that they may not be genuine.
- Verify further. Get to know them slowly and over time. Relate the pictures to discussed changes, life events, sporting events, anything that gives you a sense of trust with the information you see and the information that you have received from the user.
- Find out if they’re real as soon as possible (video call). You can meet them online using a video messaging service like Facetime, Skype, Zoom, WhatsApp even Facebook Messenger.
- If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. If you feel like you’re talking to your dream person, but your guards are up and it feels too good, then slow down, ask questions, and get to know them. If they’re defensive to this, that isn’t a good sign.
- Is he already in love? If he immediately start declaring they’re the love of your life when you are not even sure who they are, be mindful.
- You don’t have to say yes. You can say no without being rude; safety is first. Don’t be afraid to offend someone who is pursuing you beyond your comfort levels. No means no.
- Tell your friends about the online relationship. Share details about who you’re talking to and when you’re meeting with friends.
- Check your gut. If your body is telling you to be cautious, try to figure out why. Find answers to the things that make you uncomfortable BEFORE the meeting.
- Get their real name BEFORE the meeting.
- Use the find my friend app and BSafe, share your location with your best friend, check in after your fantastic date, and even make plans to spill all the details later.
- Agree about your expectations of the meetup
- Meetup someplace public and safe
- Prepare yourself to say no, just in case you have to.
- Hide your valuables and try not to bring them on first dates.
- Don’t get drunk and think twice about drugs, especially on first meetings.
- If you do go to someone’s place, and food or drinks are offered, please accept food or beverages with COMPLETE CAUTION. It is okay to say no here as well.
Any immediate concerns? If you are in any way worried or suspicious about someone on Hornet, then we are here to help. Simply report the profile inside the app, and you can always email us at email@example.com.
If you experience an immediate threat or attack contact your local law enforcement straightaway--it is better to be safe.
LGBT people, at times, have a negative history with law enforcement.
Many states don’t have adequate hate crime laws to protect the LGBT community.
However, LGBT people are vulnerable to attacks, and in the cases where LGBT people are endangered, there are some steps police can do, to better their relationships with the LGBT community:
- If there is a new threat to a region such as violent crime or even a serial killer, alert the community to that threat by contacting social apps
- Let the social apps know what specific resources a law enforcement team may have for LGBT such as an LGBT liaison officer
Social apps should have the same goals as police, to keep the LGBT community safe.
Important: If you live in an area where it is illegal to be gay, please check out our specific safety tips: How to be safe in Egypt?
If you cannot find a solution in our FAQ, please write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org. It is important that you include your Account ID in the email, so that we can trace you account. Your Account ID is on your profile and begins with the ‘@’ symbol.