Dear Aaron Carter, Gay and Bisexual Men Can Have Families, Too
In a new interview with The Hollywood Life podcast, Aaron Carter says things were misconstrued last year when he came out as bisexual, and he isn’t open to the idea of dating a man in the future. He claims this is because he wants a family, and here’s where our bullshit meters begin to go off.
Carter says, “Yeah, no. It was more so just a story that happened when I was like 17 with somebody, and I can find men and women attractive, but when it comes down to it, I think it was a little misconstrued. I see myself being with a woman and having kids. I want to have a family. I keep telling people that. I don’t want it to be misconstrued too much just because I was open about a story.”
Carter’s comments are problematic, as they shed light on an idea that gay and bisexual men can’t have families. He seems to be conflating heterosexuality with family life, and separating his own alleged bisexuality with the possibility of having children in the future. What year is this, 1978? 1878?
Obviously bisexual and gay men can have loving families with other men. We’re curious if what really happened is that Carter isn’t really bisexual at all and is using this “I want a family” claim to not actually say he used the LGBT community to get back in the spotlight for 15 minutes.
After he made his initial headline-making announcement that he was in a relationship with another man when he was 17 last year, he performed a sold-out show at LGBT hot spot Hamburger Mary’s in his hometown of Brandon, Florida. “Yes, I am a bisexual man,” Carter confirmed after his first song of the night.
“I just want to say thank you for believing in me again,” he said onstage, his voice quaking and tears filling his eyes. He tried to speak again, wiping his eyes. “Let’s move on to the next one,” he barely choked after the crowd encouraged him with chants of “Aaron, Aaron, Aaron.”
If Aaron Carter wants to no longer be part of the LGBT community, that’s fine. But don’t tell us it’s because you want a family. Lots of gay and bisexual men have families, and your reasoning for why is only going to hurt the community you claimed to be a part of while bolstering your 15 minutes of fame.