buddy baiting
buddy baiting

There’s a New Term for the Act of Straight Men Masturbating Together

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Trey Lyon is a blogger behind the Tumblr “Fuck Yeah! Friendly Fire,” which bills itself as the “definitive source for kinky ‘straightish’ porn.” He’s coined the term “buddy baiting” — used to describe the act of straight men jerking off next to a male friend but without touching him.

Lyon says “Buddy baiting” is simply part of a sub-culture of straight men who enjoy engaging in sexual acts next to other straight men. This “straightish” behavior is what fuels the theme of his Tumblr blog, which often features two (or more) men having sexing with one woman.

Mel.com explains: “There are also straight men, sometimes the same straight men [who engage in buddy baiting], who enjoy watching a man or two men penetrate another woman, and become aroused by the woman but also the men’s thrusting and grunting and muscular bodies. It’s not that they want to fuck the guy. It’s just that they think it’s hot. They don’t identify as gay, perhaps not even bisexual; they may prefer terms like ‘heteroflexible’ or ‘straightish’ interchangeably.”

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“Friendly fire” — the term used in Lyon’s blog name — occurs when “two men are involved in a threesome with a woman, and one of the men inadvertently ejaculates on his buddy while the act is taking place.”

Dan Savage even chatted with Lyon about this idea that men can still be straight despite engaging in slightly gay behaviors with other straight men.

“In her controversial 2015 book Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men, author Jane Ward asserts that sexual interaction between straight white men allows them to leverage whiteness and masculinity to authenticate their heterosexuality in the context of sex with men,” Lyon told Savage. “That by understanding their same-sex sexual interaction as meaningless, accidental or even necessary, straight white men can homosexually engage in heterosexual ways. As a non-white guy myself, it is my hallucination that the same might be the case across racial lines as well—at least when it comes to dudes jerking off together.”

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Savage bites back and says that Ward’s book is “bullshit — at lest when she’s talking about men who have anal/oral sex with other men on the regular and without a female chaperone.”

But Savage does admit that “a guy can have a same-sex experience without having to identify as gay or bi.”

“It’s not only about getting off and jerking off to porn, but also me showcasing a version of sexuality that is heterosexual, but also very heteroflexible,” Lyon says about his blog. “It’s me saying it’s OK for you to be engaged in these types of scenarios around women and men, and not feel your sexuality has to be threatened.”

 

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