We’ve all seen those dating profiles that exactly describe what kind of guy they’re seeking: “Prefer hairy gingers who speak Spanish, go to the gym everyday and only smoke cloves.” But how often do these guys actually hold out to meet Mr. Right? Not very often according to a new study recently mentioned by The Independent.
The study, lead by researchers from Queensland University of Technology, looked at 41,000 dating profiles from people between ages 18 and 80. They concluded that most online daters give up their search for Mr. Right and end up settling for Mr. Alright.
The study’s author Stephen Whyte explains:
“We looked at whether or not people actually contact people who match what they say is their ideal partner in their profile, and our findings show they don’t. Stating a preference for what you are looking for appears to have little to no bearing on the characteristics of people you actually contact.”
Whyte said that even folks who list their ideal mate criteria seem “more than happy” to talk with folks who don’t resemble their ideal mate. Let this be a lesson for anyone who feels intimidated by those dating shopping lists.
A few different factors could explain the study’s findings—how many Spanish-speaking, clove-smoking, ginger muscle otters actually exist in the wild anyway? But it’s most likely that folks end up settling for less-than-perfect mates because finding your dream mate is a huge pain in the ass. Why spend endless days seeking a pearl when there’s so many delicious and perfectly fine oysters littering the sea?