Gay Man Sends Fierce Letter to Homophobic, Trump-Loving Wicked Stepmother

Gay Man Sends Fierce Letter to Homophobic, Trump-Loving Wicked Stepmother

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Gay photographer Christopher Turner, who is married to author Armistead Maupin, took his “wicked” stepmother to task for supporting homophobia and Trump — and for being a home-wrecking tramp.

Turner wrote an open letter on Facebook that has since gone viral. The letter was apparently inspired by the stepmother’s homophobic rants on social media.

Turner writes:

Dear “Wicked Step Mother”,

Faith does not tell people of different races they can’t marry. That’s hatred.

Faith doesn’t tell a little child in an orphanage who hasn’t been adopted that she will never have parents, because the same-sex couple who wants to love her and give her a good life is not good enough. That’s hatred.

If we were speaking 50 year ago, and I had an African American wife, you would be preaching anti-miscegenation under the guise of faith. Would you just expect me to stand by and understand your racist beliefs? You would have been on the wrong side of history then, and you’re on the wrong side of history now.

And then the kid gloves really come off. It turns out the step-mother’s own sexual past is a little shady:

When you began the affair with my father, and took him away from my mother and his 3 year old daughter, did you believe that little girl deserved a mother and a father?

I accepted you because I realized you were better for my father than my mother was. My parents just weren’t good together. I never thought what you did was right, but I’ve accepted you and your relationship nonetheless.

Then Turner establishes some boundaries:

If you ever let go of the hatred you’ve been taught, I’m here. In the meantime, I’m not willing to be anybody’s second-class citizen. I’m not ashamed of myself, but maybe you should be of yourself. I’ll continue fighting for my rights and for love in the world… and against the hatred that you’ve been taught. I know that you didn’t invent this kind of hatred, but it makes me heartsick that you’ve known me for thirty years and can’t accept that I deserve the dignity and the rights of any other human: To love whom I truly love and to have that love recognized and acknowledged by my society and by my government.

I had a psychology teacher in college tell my class once to believe what people tell you about themselves. If someone says “I’m a nice person”, believe it. If someone tells you they are not nice, believe that too. I should have believed you years ago when you started calling yourself “Wicked Step Mother”.

Some might argue that it’s bad to cut right-wingers out of your life, for fear that they’ll become even more extreme in their isolation. But evidently having a gay stepson wasn’t enough to open her eyes. And sometimes, you just need a break from toxic people (like homophobic homewreckers).

Confronting you doesn’t make me feel good, or proud, or self-righteous. It just makes me feel sad that someone that I thought I knew well is actively fighting against my rights. I know our politics are on different ends of the spectrum, but seeing you publicly fighting against my personal rights truly hurts.

By the way, there are members of our family that are afraid to come out to you for good reason. One is a teenager who’s very vulnerable. LGBTQ teens are 3 times more likely to commit suicide than straight teens. The reason: intolerance like yours. I hope he has the strength to look past people like you. I want him to realize that he is a better person than anyone preaching against him and that he is perfect just the way he is. I can’t say the same about you, knowing what I know now about the darkness in your heart.

A good son… and thankfully not yours.


We don’t know whether or not this letter will change the stepmother’s mind. All we can say is we loved reading it.

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