Remember that Mormon guy Josh Weed who came out as gay but decided to stay married to his wife? Now — almost six years later — he and his wife are (surprise, surprise!) getting a divorce. They’re also apologizing “to the LGBTQIA community and to anybody who was hurt by our story over the last five years.”
Let’s go back.
Friends since childhood, Lolly and Josh Weed married even though Josh came out to her when he was 16.
In 2012, the Weeds became famous after they wrote a blog post in which they claimed to have a “robust” sex life despite Josh confirming that he had zero sexual attraction to women. The couple and their children were even the subjects of a Nightline special. Many attacked Josh Weed for being a reparative therapist, which he denied.
“I don’t believe that a gay person can or even should change their sexual attraction,” Weed told Gay.com in 2012. “I do not practice, nor do I believe in, reparative therapy or change therapy. Quite the opposite, my therapeutic stance is one that favors (but does not depend on) the idea that sexual orientation is immutable.”
But in another blog post published earlier this week, the couple announced their divorce.
“Today, we need to let you know that Lolly and I are divorcing,” reads the blog post. The couple explains at length how they came to the realization, and Josh Weed mentions three factors:
Love for the LGBTQ population.
Love for himself as a gay person.
The death of his mother.
Josh Weed apologizes “for the ways our post has been used to bully others,” to gay Mormons and to “any LGBTQIA person who was given false hope by our story.”
He also writes that his stance on homosexuality, which once aligned with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, has changed: “There was an emphasis on ‘perfect obedience’ and yet, over the course of my lifetime, the list of things said by these trusted leaders about my sexual orientation was profoundly inconsistent and confusing.”
We wish nothing but the best for the former couple, and we hope they find happiness in this next chapter of their journey.
Josh Weed, if you’re reading this: If that next chapter includes exploring the back room at The Eagle or taking a stroll through the Meat Rack in Fire Island, hit us up on Hornet! We’ll gladly be your wing man.