There’s a movement to add another letter to the ever-growing LGBTQ acronym that the queer community uses to define itself. One of the newest letters being considered — and added — by some is K for “kink.” But are those who enjoy the darker side of sex really separate from the rest of us? Do kink-lovers deserve separate placement in a string of sexual and gender orientations?
In 2016, MTV added kink to its definition of LGBTQIAPK, defining it as:
Kink is about those who have kinky fantasies. This could involve BDSM (bondage, discipline and sadomasochism) where sexual fantasies include anything from tying each other up in the bedroom to altogether more painful activities. … If you’ve heard of Fifty Shades of Grey (and we’re assuming that you probably have), kink is what sultry Mr. Grey is into. No matter what you think of the book (or the film), it certainly raised awareness about the kink community.
On the website Quora, the conversation of whether or not the word should be added to the LGBTQ acronym came up, with many agreeing kink has no place in the acronym.
A user named Samuel writes, “I’m not really sure why it is even included in the acronym as personally I don’t think it’s a sexuality or orientation. For example, you don’t go around telling people, ‘Hey I’m Sam and I identify as kink.’ You don’t even say, ‘Hey I’m Samuel and my kinks are blah blah and blah.’ And it isn’t helping stop the gay stereotype of ‘sex-crazed and horny.'”
Another user adds, “I and others believe that it shouldn’t be included in the acronym. Kink is not inherently non-cis or non-straight, and including it can feed into the stereotype of queer people being ‘sexual deviants.’ BDSM is fine in a community of its own, but it’s strange and unnecessary to include it with sexual orientations and gender identities.”
Another user, John, writes, “I’m gay, and I do not and will not use this silly LGBTQLAPK shit. They keep adding a silly letter for inclusion. You are just labelling yourselves, and that is a silly thing to do.”