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Men Who Love Men But Who Don’t Want to Be Called ‘Gay’ Are Now Opting for This Odd Label

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Men who love men but who don’t identify with the LGBTQ community have come up with a new word to describe themselves, as a new interview with the BBC brings to light.

“I think ‘homosexual’ is a bit clinical, and lots of people use it negatively,” Nicolas Chinardet says.  “‘Gay’ has a certain lifestyle attached to it, which I don’t recognize myself in.”

Chinardet doesn’t relate to what he calls “the clichés you could attach to the ‘gay’ scene”. A club photographer, he says unless he’s working, “I don’t go clubbing. I don’t like shopping.”

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Chinardet came up with an alternative term to describe himself as a man who finds other men sexually attractive: androphile. He created the term with his knowledge of the Greek language, putting two words together – the prefix “andro”, meaning man, and “phile”, denoting love for something.

Explaining the word’s definition, Chinardet said: “It’s a polite, nonspecific way to ask what a certain person is attracted to. An androphilic man is homosexual, while an androphilic woman is heterosexual.”

The word has been co-opted by another young gay men who also identities as alt-right.  Henning Diesel is a right-wing libertarian who lives near Hamburg, Germany. He also rejects the word “gay” and has begun to identify, too, as androphile.

“Gay is part of the LGBT+ world that I never see myself as part of,” the 37 year-old explains.

He explains that he doesn’t identify with “gay music, like Lady Gaga, Ariana Grande and Miley Cyrus” and “gay TV and movies, like Queer As Folk.”

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Henning admits to being “sort of associated with the alt-right,” and he regularly shares alt-right memes, as well as videos and tweets created by figures in the alt-right movement.

“My sexual orientation is homosexual,” he says. He describes his personality as having “typically male characteristics like courage or diligence — very traditional aspects.”