Men Who Love Men But Who Don’t Want to Be Called ‘Gay’ Are Now Opting for This Label Instead
Men who love men but who don’t identify with the LGBTQ community have come up with a new word to describe themselves, as a new interview with the BBC brings to light.
“I think ‘homosexual’ is a bit clinical, and lots of people use it negatively,” Nicolas Chinardet says. “‘Gay’ has a certain lifestyle attached to it, which I don’t recognize myself in.”
Chinardet doesn’t relate to what he calls “the clichés you could attach to the ‘gay’ scene”. A club photographer, he says unless he’s working, “I don’t go clubbing. I don’t like shopping.”
Chinardet came up with an alternative term to describe himself as a man who finds other men sexually attractive: androphile. He created the term with his knowledge of the Greek language, putting two words together – the prefix “andro”, meaning man, and “phile”, denoting love for something.
Explaining the word’s definition, Chinardet said: “It’s a polite, nonspecific way to ask what a certain person is attracted to. An androphilic man is homosexual, while an androphilic woman is heterosexual.”
The word has been co-opted by another young gay men who also identities as alt-right. Henning Diesel is a right-wing libertarian who lives near Hamburg, Germany. He also rejects the word “gay” and has begun to identify, too, as androphile.
“Gay is part of the LGBT+ world that I never see myself as part of,” the 37 year-old explains.
He explains that he doesn’t identify with “gay music, like Lady Gaga, Ariana Grande and Miley Cyrus” and “gay TV and movies, like Queer As Folk.”
Henning admits to being “sort of associated with the alt-right,” and he regularly shares alt-right memes, as well as videos and tweets created by figures in the alt-right movement.
“My sexual orientation is homosexual,” he says. He describes his personality as having “typically male characteristics like courage or diligence — very traditional aspects.”
What do you think about these men who love men, but refute the identity of gay? Do you think it’s just internalized homophobia or a valid label?
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