Nico Tortorella and Bethany Meyers Open Up About Their Open Relationship: ‘This Is Who We Are’
Nico Tortorella and Bethany Meyers opened up to Hornet during an interview on the red carpet at the GLAAD Media Awards Rising Stars Luncheon in New York City this last Friday. The couple, who’ve been in a polyamorous relationship for 11 years, tied the knot earlier this year.
“On paper, I think to the naked eye, Bethany and I still very much represent a cis-man and cis-woman who got married,” Tortorella explains.
He continues, “Inside of the community, it has been some sort of question on exactly who we are and what our representation is. But in our relationship and in our own identities and expressions, we are so much more fluid than that in our sexuality and our genders. And we are kind of redefining that for ourselves right now.”
“It’s been interesting now that we have solidified this foundation between the two of us, to then see all of the others places that we can go,” Meyers tells us. “In a very small example, this week we are playing with clothing and our gender-bending closet. There’s these small areas where are able to find a lot of expression in ourselves. It’s been great.”
Tortorella wore Christian Siriano “women’s wear” to the Rising Stars luncheon on Friday and to the GLAAD Media Awards on Saturday night, while Meyers donned genderless looks herself.
Tortorella says, “At the end of the day, yes, it matters so much, but we don’t have to take it all so seriously all the fucking time, you know? There needs to be a sense of humility in what we’re doing and why we’re here and that should be celebrated more often.”
When asked if they think they don’t take this subject matter too seriously, Tortorella responds, “There are moments when we take it seriously, just life in general, not just our marriage, you know?”