In 2011, Dekker, who recently appeared in the short-lived Backstrom, told Out magazine that he’d only had relationships with women but wasn’t “closed” to a gay relationship.
In the note, Dekker says his coming out is because he was recently outed by a “prominent gay man:”
My sexual orientation once again came into question this week when a prominent gay man used an awards acceptance speech to ‘out’ me. While he did not mention me by name, the explicit details of his reference made it easy for the public and media to connect the dots.
Dekker is reportedly referring to Heroes writer Bryan Fuller, screenwriter and producer who has worked on Dead Like Me, Wonderfalls, Pushing Daisies, Hannibal and American Gods.
Fuller was honored this week at an Outfest event and alluded to Dekker onstage during a comment he made. He said: “I had a brief stint on Heroes, where the gay character was ‘hetwashed’ after the actor’s management threatened to pull him from the show if he—the character, not the actor— were gay.”
NewNowNext reported after, “He didn’t name anyone, but has been on the record as claiming Thomas Dekker’s character on Heroes, Zach, was supposed to come out, but Dekker’s management was worried it would affect his casting as young John Connor in a Terminator TV series.”
Dekker continued in his statement, “While it is an odd situation, I thank him because it presents a prime opportunity for me to publicly say that I am indeed a man who proudly loves other men. In fact, this April, I married my husband and I could not be happier.”
“I have never lied to the press about the fluidity of my sexuality but this man claiming that I came out is not true,” he added. “Because I have not ‘officially’ until this moment. I simply refuse to be robbed of the glorious joy that belongs to me. To say the words myself. ‘I’m gay’. Those words are a badge of honor that no one can steal.”
“Sexuality and who you love is a deeply personal and complicated thing. For some of us, it takes to cultivate, discover and conclude. It is not something anyone should ever be ashamed of and certainly not something anyone should be rushed into.”