He’s adorable, intelligent and amazingly talented, but in case you were wondering, Xavier Dolan is not a bottom!
The actor/writer/director of the films I Killed My Mother, Mommy and recent Cannes Grand Prix winner It’s Only the End of the World—as well as Adele’s music video for “Hello”—had no problem opening up to Vulture (figuratively speaking) last week about what he gets up to in the sheets, despite the purpose of the interview being his latest film. We only wish the announcement of his sexual proclivities weren’t couched in typical bottom-shaming.
Amidst talk of It’s Only the End of the World, which happens to be Canada’s Oscar submission for Best Foreign Film this year, the interview sharply veered to the sexual:
What do you get from acting that you don’t get from filmmaking?
Acting is liberating. Filmmaking is not liberating — the loneliness and the responsibilities consume you. When you’re acting, you’re letting something out, and when you’re directing, you’re absorbing everything.
You do seem very uninhibited as an actor. I can’t recall another director who bottomed onscreen in his first movie.
You know what? I don’t think I would do that now. And I’m not even a bottom, actually, if we want to go there.
Let’s go there.
Okay. What outlet is this for again? [Laughs.]
Your film Tom at the Farm, to me, feels like it’s about a bottom. Even the way it’s shot is this dance between a submissive protagonist and a domineering top.
It is a dance. I don’t have a problem with putting myself in a submissive position. [Pause.] Are you trying to make me confess? Are you trying to make me come out as a bottom here?
Come out however you’d like. There’s also “vers.”
You’re strictly …
We have no qualms with the conversation turning sexual—in fact, we love when those in the spotlight shed their inhibitions and get frank about sex, and we want more of it—but what’s with Dolan’s tone? There’s no shame whatsoever in being on the bottom during sex, in the same way there’s no superiority in taking the top. When are we going to get past these loaded preconceived notions of sexual position (which, let’s be honest, most likely stem from ingrained misogyny)? Being a gay man who likes it on the bottom shouldn’t require a second instance of “coming out.” Without bottoms, being a top sure would be boring.
Oh, and being “strictly” anything in bed is boring.
Yeah, we said it.