Hunting for a Fit Daddy? Snag Him With This Guide to Successful Gym Flirting

Hunting for a Fit Daddy? Snag Him With This Guide to Successful Gym Flirting

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Gentlemen, it’s time to log off for a second and pick up some weights. The gym floor is a lush forest of testosterone, featuring many gay men in their natural habitat. Forget profile pics for a second: At the gym you’ll see age and height (and ass) in 3-D. But what’s the appropriate protocol for gym flirting?

Beyond finding a guy with a hot body, there are probably higher odds you’ll meet a quality man at the gym. Research shows people who workout tend to be healthier, happier and have their shit together!

So, buckle up: You are about to embark on a journey into the ancient art of gym flirting … in person!

Yes, you’ll actually need to dust off your social skills and put yourself out there.

But don’t worry, here are some tips for snagging the gym daddy of your dreams:

DO: Make eye contact.

DON’T: Do what I call the “West Hollywood flinch,” which is when you stare and then look away immediately once he catches you. It’s super obvious when you do this, guys. Now, a guy who goes after what he wants is viewed as confident and sexy.


DO: Take out your headphones. It’s rather impossible to strike up a convo with someone who is blaring Britney. Make yourself available, bro.

DON’T: Give stank face while treadmilling to Kanye or doing body rolls to Rihanna. We get you’re living your best life, but the gym isn’t the setting for your debut music video.


DO: Smile!

DON’T: Act aloof. In all my years of going to the gym, I’ve made more connections when I’m open and outgoing. When you act approachable, you’re more likely to be approached.


DO: Use dumbbells. There are likely more people around the weight rack at your gym, which means a ton of opportunities to stare, smile and chat.

DON’T: Isolate yourself on a solo island of machines. Remember, there’s only one person to a machine, and it takes two to make gym flirting work.


WARNING: None of these tips apply in the steam room. Good luck!


Have any gym flirting tips and tricks of your own? Sound off in the comments!


Seth Browning is a celebrity trainer, bootcamp instructor, fitness personality and one of the most sought-after personal trainers in Hollywood. He emphasizes total body and core training, mind/body awareness and holistic nutrition and strategic supplementation. Find him at

This story was originally published on Oct. 26, 2018. It has since been updated. 

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