National Coming Out Day 2018 saw a ton of touching, inspiring and entertaining posts from some of our favorite people on social media.
In honor of the big day, we’ve compiled some of our favorite sentiments from across Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. These posts inspire us to keep up visibility as members of the LGBTQ community — something that has truly positive consequences for us all.
Here are our 12 favorite National Coming Out Day 2018 messages from the big day:
1. Pose creator Steven Canals
— Steven Canals (@StevenCanals) October 11, 2018
Canals shared a video yesterday for National Coming Out Day 2018 in which he reads a letter written to himself. “I want you to know that as tough as things may seem right now, in a couple years you are going to meet an incredible group of artists, and you are going to create a piece of work that you are so incredibly proud of,” he says. “So continue to shine your bright light, continue to celebrate who you are, don’t let all those kids on the playground who keep on making fun of you for the way that you walk or the way that you talk bring you down, because you’re special, and you are loved, and your voice matters.
2. Gay Olympian Gus Kenworthy
— Gus Kenworthy (@guskenworthy) October 11, 2018
For National Coming Out Day 2018, Kenworthy treated us to a sexy shot of him and boyfriend Matt Wilkas sharing a kiss, along with a lengthy post in which the athlete reminds us all, “Today is a gentle reminder to us all to live our lives honestly and authentically and not allow anybody else’s expectations to force us into silence.”
3. Writer, comedian and star of the new Heathers reboot Drew Droege
The always utterly hilarious Droege shared an amazing post on Facebook in which he says he doesn’t really have a “coming out story” but instead recalls the signs from a young age that he’d eventually come out: “These coming out stories have been really beautiful today. I don’t really have one. I mean, when I was four, my parents gave me watermelon and I said, ‘I don’t care for the texture.’ At the age of 6, I complimented my mom’s cousin on her ‘plum sweater.’ The next year I remarked that a girl on my soccer team looked like Eartha Kitt (oh my god she really did). Looking back, every single best friend I’ve had is now an out gay man. We talked about Mama Cass and Elvira and Jan Hooks and Kim Wayans and John Waters and Death Becomes Her. I had posters of Freddy Krueger, Madonna and Frank N. Furter over my bed. But for the longest time, I was nothing. I was terrified of sex, of dying, of being labeled, of being wrong, of being flawed. I didn’t understand how it was all connected and inseparable from my DNA. I was surrounded by love from my family and friends, who all knew and who were all patient. And oh sweet lord, what a wonderful life I’ve had and am having. I love watermelon now. And I am grateful to be here.”
4. Iceman Writer Sina Grace
He’s the man responsible for writing Marvel Comics’ Iceman series, which features the X-Men’s openly gay frosty fighter (Hornet even filmed the launch party for Iceman #1), and on Facebook Grace delivered a succinct message reminding us all that in addition to people coming out and being visible members of the LGBTQ community, it matters when beloved fictional characters do the same.
5. Our Favorite Netflix Series, Big Mouth
— Big Mouth (@bigmouth) October 11, 2018
The show, which comes from the mind of Nick Kroll and dropped a second season on Netflix just last week, had a message for everyone who has fallen in love with its pubescent teen characters.
6. American Horror Story: Apocalypse Star Cheyenne Jackson
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When this picture was taken I was 17 and I was terrified of what would happen if people found out I was gay. What would my parents do? Would my church kick me out? Everything I knew, I believed…would be gone. I thought no one would love me. I was afraid I would die of AIDS alone somewhere, forgotten and outcast. So I kept my secret. The alternative was too much to bear. When I finally found the strength to come out two years later at 19 in a small town in the northwest, it was definitely a struggle. The family dynamic had to shift, friendships were tested, and I had to start deciding who and what I was about. I forged new friendships, I got out of my comfort zone, I even joined a gay youth group in Spokane, Washington and for the first time in my life I was around people like me. I felt alive, I felt seen, and finally…I saw a future for myself. One where someday I could be an artist, and sing and act and be myself, and maybe even one day meet a nice guy and get married and have kids. Life is not easy. For anyone. No matter what you may think. Everyone struggles. Everyone hurts. And we all need each other to get through this life. Happy #nationalcomingoutday. ❤️
Jackson took to Instagram on National Coming Out Day 2018 to recount his struggle with coming out as a 19-year-old in a small town. “The family dynamic had to shift, friendships were tested and I had to start deciding who and what I was about,” he says.
7. Openly Queer Musician and Model Yves
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I took a million deep breaths before posting this, I’ve never posted on national coming out day, for some reason I felt compelled to do so, I may delete this, I get slightly triggered with my own personal stuff, here’s the short version, I would chat with dudes on stuff like aol messenger (sn?) and all that, I came out on MySpace when I was 15 and then deleted the post, I used to skate with some older guys and I thought one of them would see it, I took the risk of telling them one day when we were skating before they had the chance of bringing it up (paranoia), they beat the shit out of me, I trusted them, I skipped school a lot that year, I shared this in a magazine interview, it’s something that I don’t like talking about, I’m very vocal about my support & concern for my community, im a pretty open person but just like everyone else I have things that I deal with in private and i’m forever growing, my sexuality isn’t a choice, I would never choose to create separation from people I love or people I thought I loved? I would never make the choice to be treated like trash, you don’t come out just once, your whole life is coming out, whether it be in casual conversation at a job interview, or to the barber who is vocally degrading the women on the sidewalk and pauses after the word bitch and waits for you to agree, or to the family friend who shows up for holiday dinner, or to an Uncle who thinks you can’t believe in God and be gay, being a gay man is one thing, being a black gay man is a separate weight, I tried to commit suicide over this, I can’t believe it but I can believe it, hating who you are is easier then loving who you’re meant to be, once you start to love the parts of you that the world programs you to hate, you become a machine, machines are big and strong, but like every machine, you need tuning or a change of oil and some wires tweaked, to anyone who reads this, thanks for helping me with my oil change. if you’re not out i just want you to know that I see you soldier, it’s okay, I’m not afraid of my closet, there’s actually some decent stuff in it. also my parents are great people, im rambling, i love you bye. yves
For the very first time, Yves took to Instagram to share a post on National Coming Out Day. In his post he details the harrowing journey of coming out as a teen, having been met with violence, hate and thoughts of self-harm. With one line he reminds us all why National Coming Out Day is so important: “Hating who you are is easier than loving who you’re meant to be.”
8. Drag Superstar Jinkx Monsoon
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Happy Coming Out Day everyone. I was blessed with a supportive family and a very queer community that not only had SMYRC, a queer teen rec/resource center- but also The Escape, an all ages queer dance club. This gave me the safety and freedom to come out at age 13. I was luckier than the majority of teens in our country. Every day, I take a moment to remind myself how lucky I was to have all that. My heart breaks for teens who don’t have that. I think, keeping yourself safe is very important- I know how torturous it feels to have to hide that part of you, but if you don’t feel safe where you are, don’t feel pressured to come out before you’re ready. I don’t want any more young queer lives lost. Remember to trust yourself, remember that the very fact that you exist is a miracle. You are a miracle. Remember that it DOES get better. One day, you will find your tribe; your chosen family, and it will get better. Come out when you are ready and know that you are loved by your queer family all over the world. In your darkest moments, you are not alone. (this is me and the queer community of Portland, breaking the Guinness book of records for “worlds largest drag queen chorus line” in 2006. I was 17 or 18, and very rough around the edges- but I was one happy duck this day. The song we danced to was “I’m coming out.”)
This always eloquent RuPaul’s Drag Race alum came out at the young age of 13, which she attributes to a supportive family, a local queer teen resource center in Seattle and an all-ages queer dance club. “Everyday I take a moment to remind myself how lucky I was to have all that. My heart breaks for teens who don’t,” she says via an Instagram post on National Coming Out Day 2018.
9. Gorgeous Trans Performer Gia Gunn
Happy #NationalComingOutDay 🌈 Remember “coming out” isn’t necessarily only pertained to sexual orientation but anything you want it to be! Let’s celebrate each other and tell someone you love them today ❤️ pic.twitter.com/qtlOae6Fbr
— Gia Gunn (@GiaGunn) October 11, 2018
“Tell someone you love them today,” Gia Gunn said on Twitter yesterday in honor of National Coming Out Day 2018. The Drag Race alum — one of seven trans women to have competed on the series, who has been extremely open about her gender confirmation process — also reminds us that “coming out” doesn’t just pertain to one’s sexual orientation. Think of it as a way to be honest with yourself and live your life as authentically as possible.
10. Neon Trees Frontman Tyler Glenn
this photo of me with my grandparents was 5 years ago, the DAY before I came out to my mom and eventually the world.
My life has INFINITELY improved because I decided to merge my double lives, and get on a path of healing.
I am a proud gay man. pic.twitter.com/y9tSn8o69G
— Tyler Glenn (@tylerinacoma) October 11, 2018
“I am a proud gay man,” shared Glenn, who famously struggled with living his life as a gay man and a practicing Mormon back in Utah. “My life has infinitely improved because I decided to merge my double lives and get on a path of healing,” he says. And here’s hoping his message on National Coming Out Day 2018 helps some of his fans currently dealing with a similar predicament.
11. Funny man Billy Eichner
Happy National Coming Out Day! It Gets Better. pic.twitter.com/kNf0bZdoEM
— billy eichner (@billyeichner) October 11, 2018
Combining National Coming Out Day with humor — as he does — the actor, who is currently appearing on American Horror Story: Apocalypse, shared a photo of himself from that very show in which he looks a bit … weathered (though still not bad for someone who literally survived nuclear winter in Los Angeles).
12. Actor Scott Evans
Sharing again on #NationalComingOutDay.I know not everyone is this lucky coming out. My mom is my hero. At a time that was impossible to navigate,she saved me.She says she always knew & says her 1st thought upon giving birth was “yes!I got a gay one!”💁🏼♂️I love u mama. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 pic.twitter.com/eutQRvyprh
— Scott Evans (@thescottevans) October 11, 2018
Proving that not all the most memorable National Coming Out Day 2018 stories were tales of doom and gloom, former One Life to Live cast member (and openly gay brother of Captain America himself, Chris Evans) Scott Evans reminisced over the lovely initial response he got from his mother upon coming out as a teen. “My mom is my hero,” he says.
13. Hamilton Creator Lin-Manuel Miranda
I don't know how to phrase it more succinctly than I phrased it last year.
So, a reprise:
At your pace, on your terms.
Your happiness and safety are paramount.
Sending endless love your way.#NationalComingOutDay #LoveisLoveisLoveisLoveisLoveisLoveisLoveisLove https://t.co/hkWxQtbyRA
— Fear Agua, Fear Agua, New Homocides, Fear Agua… (@Lin_Manuel) October 11, 2018
National Coming Out Day 2018 saw more than posts from members of the LGBTQ community, as the Hamilton scribe shows us. Allies are important, too! “Sending endless love your way,” he wrote on Twitter, sharing his same post from the year prior.